I'm constantly reading and taking courses on many spiritual topics. As I continue to find helpful information and experience those "ah-ha moments" I will post them here.____________________________________________________________________________________
Kryon said something interesting about conspiracy theories. He didn't say that they didn't exist, but having negative reactions and fighting against them is not the way to bring peace to this Earth. Isn't that what we're working towards? If it is a conspiracy, then the truth will eventually come out.
Last night, I heard this again, for about the 6th time. This has all been through different channelers. All of which I've been guided to listen to.
The virus is a smokescreen or a distraction from the other things going on in the background. The virus is real, but numbers are being blown out of proportion by the media, to keep us in fear.
Take precautions, but stay in an OBSERVER perspective. Spend time doing things that you enjoy. All of this chaos is the fear coming to the surface.
There is a massive "disassembling" process going on. A disassembling of the old destructive patterns. The old ways of BEING.
They are all saying that Trump is the "mover and shaker" and we actually WANT him in office. Other powerful people are scared of him, intimidated by him. He's the paradigm shifter. I never thought that I would say this in a million years, but love him and support him. One higher dimensional being said:
They all say that if he doesn't get re-elected things will get much worse.
We all CHOSE to be here for this. I haven't heard anything specific, but I've heard that we haven't seen anything yet.
I keep hearing about a Phase 2. The virus is only Phase 1. Phase 2 is something totally different. I have a feeling that Phase 2 is based on the election results.
For anyone who hasn't learned to listen to their guidance, this is an amusing little story.
I don't normally ask my guidance about trivial decisions, but I did today. I desperately needed to go grocery shopping and my husband offered to go along, but I just didn't feel like it. For some reason, I couldn't even decide which store to go to. That's when I decided to ask.
Should we go to this store? "No". Should we go over to that one? "No". Should I order pizza and wait until tomorrow? "No". Are we supposed to just starve? "No".
How is that possible? This made no sense at all. We had nothing for dinner. I got ready and forced myself to go anyway.
We got the groceries, came home, walked in the door and there was a bag of KFC chicken on the dining room table. Our son brought it home for everyone. He never does that.
My higher self, my guidance, KNEW that he was going to bring home that chicken. In fact, he probably came home within 15 minutes of us leaving. The "human me" had no clue, but my higher self never fails to amaze me.
I've been writing a lot about how we need to let go and surrender. Last night, I was reading a Paul Selig book. The guides asked why humans always want to know, "What will happen to me if I do let go?". Then we ask, "What is it that will change in my life?" or "Who will I become?".
Since I've learned to trust my guidance, I feel like I've completely surrendered. So I asked if I had completely let go and the answer was "no".
I'm writing this because it may apply to many of you too.
I have a decent house, but it's definitely not the house of my dreams. I still have furniture that I bought in the 70's. I love my family unconditionally, but they all think that I'm a bit weird. My husband has a number of health issues, which has eliminated any chance of travel. We're not in tremendous debt, but there is some that I would like to see disappear. I write free information on this website, so I'm lucky if I've made $20 in over 5 years, but this is how I choose to be of service. We do however, always have what we need and I'm extremely grateful for that.
I'm being totally honest here, in order to make a point. Why can't I completely let go? What part of this "dream life" could I possibly be afraid of losing? What is it that I'm so desperately trying to hold on to?
We're so afraid of losing control that we will live with anything that seems familiar and comfortable, whether we really like it or not. We're terrified of uncertainty. We want to know exactly what to expect. If something is going to change, we want to know when and how. Why do we do that? Do we honestly think that if we let go, in order to align/merge with our Higher/Divine self that it might get worse?
I remember many years ago, someone asked a channeled, higher dimensional being: "What question do you have for humans?"
They replied, "What are humans so afraid of?"
A few years ago, I wrote a page called "Reality". I thought that I understood, until today. I heard an explanation that caused me to re-write most of that page. Click below to read it.
My guidance has been pretty quiet for a while, until yesterday. Suddenly everything became much more simplified.
I wrote a post back in May, called "This Just Changed Everything". I realized that ascension is preparing the BODY. It's preparing the body to merge or align with your higher self. That is the FULL awakening.
At the same time, I was still confused about a chain of "messages", from my guidance, that led to deleting a ton of stuff from this site. What was "wrong" with it? I didn't understand.
I finally figured it out. It wasn't so much "wrong" as it was causing unnecessary work for all of us.
The Law of Attraction is real. IT IS how we create our reality. It will always exist.
Your Higher self, Divine self, True self, whatever you choose to call it, is already holding YOUR highest possible frequency. This is the frequency that is unique for you and your highest experience in this lifetime. So your higher self is manifesting all kinds of wonderful things.
But how many times have you heard that you have to raise your vibration to match? Then all of those wonderful things will become your reality.
The fact is that the "human you" can't raise your vibration that high. We're killing ourselves trying to eliminate old beliefs. We've tried to clear blocks. You may be more positive, calm and balanced, but generally speaking, it can't be done. Especially now, with everything that's going on.
Now I understand why everything that I'm being guided to do, leads right back to the alignment/merging of the "human self" and the Higher/Divine self.
This explains the page that I was guided to write called "No More Self Help". We don't need anymore information. We don't need to do anymore clearing. What we need to do is LET GO! Start trusting and merging with your Higher/Divine self.
It's actually 2 simple steps:
Step 1 - Learn to pay attention to your guidance, which is your Higher self. I don't care how you do it, but you can't MERGE unless you trust it. Follow it's nudges, suggestions and sometimes a kick in the A--. Your higher self holds no negativity, judgement or fear. Your vibration and frequency automatically increases.
Step 2 - KNOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE. This is why that page felt so urgent.
I know of 2 ways to align or merge. One way is "A Course In Miracles". At one time, I promoted it, but to be honest I couldn't get into it. It's too religious sounding and I didn't have the focus and commitment for 365 lessons. I personally didn't like it, but I still believe in it completely.
As another option, my guidance led me to Paul Selig's channeled books. His guides are teaching, aligning and raising your vibration all at once. Click on the link below and it will connect to the Paul Selig page for more information....
I was just listening to a Bashar video and he was talking about the Higher Self, which ties right in with the last post.
You and your Higher Self are not separate. You are ONE being. You always have been.
Imagine your Higher Self on a mountain. It can see you very clearly. It can see every path that you should take. It can see the bigger picture, the higher point of view, yet most humans don't trust it.
Meanwhile you, with your 3rd dimensional physical mind are in the valley. You can only see what's within your view. Yet this is the part of you that you listen to.
Your physical mind is the part of you that's in fear of being deceived. If there are any tricks or deceptions, they come from the physical mind. It's the physical mind that closes doors for you, because it doesn't like change.
Your Higher Self is constantly trying to guide you, if you will pay attention. It will experience all of your choices along with you, even when you don't listen and still love you unconditionally.
I heard someone say this a long time ago and I believe that I may have experienced it.
According to my guidance, my husband is still existing in 3D, but I'm in 5D. I haven't noticed anything different, but that's the answer that I keep getting.
Last week, my husband got the riding mower out and mowed the lawn. When he came back in the house, he couldn't find his glasses. He had an extra pair, so it wasn't a big deal to him, but I still wanted to find them.
I searched the entire lawn. I looked all over the garage and on the mower. In fact, I looked on and around the mower a couple of times and I couldn't find them.
Today, he went out to mow again. He found them, right on the mower, in a place that I had looked at least twice. Why didn't I see them?
Is it really possible to lose something in "a 3D reality" and not see it in 5D? Very weird. Either that or I'm blind.
I've mentioned this a number of times before. About a year ago, I heard someone channel Archangel Metatron. He said that only a few of us are beginning to catch tiny glimpses of 5D. Most are not there yet. He said that we must focus on our connection with the divine and most are not doing that.
The first thing that I discovered is that you can be the most loving, caring, happy person on the planet, but that doesn't mean that you exist in 5D.
Then, I woke up one day with the word "MERGE" in my head. Later on, I heard something that I've never heard before and it all came together.
Your human self, "will NEVER fully awaken" and that is a direct quote. Your human self can become AWARE that there's something more. It can become AWARE of the path that it should follow and the changes or shifts that need to be made. BUT, it's the MERGING of the "human self" and the higher/divine self that is the FULL awakening or 5D.
Ascension isn't the merging. Ascension is preparing the body for the merge and it's a very gradual process, which you have no control of. The 3rd dimensional human body couldn't handle a rapid change of high vibration or energy. The body must gradually acclimate and that takes small changes over time. These are the downloads that we have all been receiving for quite some time now. They are gradually shifting and changing your physical body, in order to handle the merging.
Just as a side note. I heard one woman describe her RAPID awakening. It happened to her because of her soul agreements. She said that it was like being electrocuted. I really don't think that most of us would want to experience that.
So then you can begin to merge by paying attention to your guidance which is your higher self. Allow it to SHOW you the way. Trust it. You can't merge if you don't have trust. Ask and you will receive the answers.
Just remember that your body still has to be ready. It will only accept what it can handle. This is why you may not feel any different, until the whole process is complete.
Now I understand every single thing that I've been guided to listen to, to read and to write. It's the "bread crumbs", the puzzle pieces and they all fit.
I can also see now that I put way too much effort into this for many years, thinking that I was doing something "wrong". I didn't realize that I was being SHOWN, so I wasn't paying attention.
If you would like to read the page about guidance click below.....
The other night I was listening to a video about the Coronavirus. They said, "Follow the dots." I was wondering what the heck that meant.
Tonight I heard another one that basically said the same thing, but much more detailed.
First I'm going to remind everyone that you CHOSE this lifetime. This is not punishment in any way. It's all about change. The change that humans have asked for. I'm really curious to see what the outcome of all this will be.
A long time ago, on my ascension page, I wrote, "Higher frequencies will gradually bring lower frequencies up to the surface". I also said that "Mother Nature is definitely rebuilding herself". Remember that Mother Nature or Gaia has a consciousness too. Everything that has ever happened leaves an imprint.
"Follow the dots" means to look back through history. Where was power taken away from humanity? Where were there horrible injustices done? Where does balance need to be restored?
I'm not a history buff, but think about the Spanish Inquisition, the Holocaust, Salem witch trials, communism, wars and massacres. If you look at the places that are being hit hard by the virus, it does seem to make some sense.
How about the U.S.? The U.S. is all about money. Where is most of the money located?
Now for me, this was even bigger, because I was very strongly guided to write the page about "Who You Really Are", just before all of this began.
The video said that it's going to affect those who don't KNOW who they really are. Those who give their power away, believing that a "force" outside of themselves will "save them".
Could this be why Italy got hit so hard with the virus? Could it possibly have anything to do with the Roman Catholic church?
I've also heard this statement more than a few times and it's a very interesting choice of words. "All of this will last as long as it is NECESSARY".
This is another one. "The Coronavirus is a smoke screen".
This is interesting. I just saw a short clip from an event in December 2019.
Bashar said, "If I may use some of your colloquial language, 2020 is going to be NUTS. It's going to be CRAZY."
He talked about how important it will be for us to "remain at the center of the storm". In other words, like a hurricane, where the center is calm yet the chaos swirls around you. Make decisions that will be in alignment with your best discernment.
Last night, I was led to a channeled video that was pretty shocking. I was up half of the night trying to process it all.
Now for me, it's beginning to make perfect sense. This explains why I'm being led down this crazy path to some very specific things lately.
The channel said that the Coronavirus is what we've been waiting for. This is the big "SHIFT" or "RESET". What else could have possibly affected the entire planet all at once?
It was never definite that it would be a virus, but he said that we all KNEW, deep within that something was coming, although we didn't know exactly what.
The Universe is also making a big shift. As souls, we have always been part of soul groups, soul families or angelic families. This has caused us to have many lifetimes with the same souls, playing different roles. On April 4th, 2020 (4-4-4) he said that "the call" went out. Those groups or families have been "disbanded". Each one of us is our own sovereign being now, yet still ONE with all of creation.
For me, this was the real surprise. The Archangels, spirit guides and guardian angels will no longer be "available". I asked for myself if my spirit guides were still here and I got a no. They are all being "re-trained" for life on the New Earths. Notice the "s". There are going to be many, many New Earths. Remember that many of these beings, especially Archangels, have never been human.
This virus is going to cause many changes worldwide. This "quiet time" is intentional. It's forcing us into the feminine energies of creativity, reflection and relaxation.
All experiences happening now are part of each individual's "soul contract". There are no mistakes.
The souls who are "leaving" planned to go. Most came to "learn to be human". It was their first time here. They CHOSE this as an "exit point". There are no accidents.
Many of those souls will go into preparation for the "New Earths".
Basically, it was saying that it's up to YOU now. Pay attention to your guidance. It's time to fully awaken. KNOW who you really are.
This explains again, why I was guided to write a page with that same title just a couple of weeks ago. I've heard it over and over. The time is NOW.
Most of this is making total sense to me now, but I still have one question. What happens to all of those who channel the Archangels?
I've written many times that I've learned how to connect with my higher self and I trust it completely. Now I'm waking up with words and thoughts in my head.
For a while, it's been Coronavirus and numerous messages about it.
Anyone on this site should know this, but just as a reminder, fear attracts fear. Worry attracts more to worry about. What you focus on expands.
We must avoid fear. It's a proven fact that fear will weaken your immune system.
I'm not saying to ignore your feelings. Accept them and then try to work through them. Ask, "What am I being SHOWN that I'm not seeing?".
We should all stay informed about the virus, take precautions, but don't focus on it continuously.
This quiet time is actually a blessing. It's the perfect time to practice paying attention to your thoughts and learn how to shift them.
Go within. Ask and listen. You do have all of the answers. It's your higher self or your innate intelligence.
This is also a great time to notice the "thought behind the thought". There was a big discussion about this in Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch. Why are you doing what you're doing? Is it based on fear or is it based on love?
Today's message was to stay out of prayer and meditation groups. They are focusing on the problem, expanding the problem. They are not helping the problem.
I've heard it over and over. This is a "LESSON" for humanity, created out of love. To SHOW us what fear can create. It's all about BALANCE and also UNITY. The entire world is in this together.
Just the other day someone said:
This is a great example of how dwelling on things can actually make you sick.
For the last few years, our 80 pound dog was having hip problems. Around June of last year, she began to fall numerous times each day, yet she still insisted that my husband take her for a walk. Every day she would come back bleeding, because she scraped her "doggie elbows" on the concrete. To me, she was not living life to the fullest anymore. It was time.
My husband adored that dog. Since she's been gone, he blames himself. He believes that it was too soon for her to go. She was going on 13 years old.
On the last day, he picked her up to put her in the truck. The following day, his left side was numb, from the tip of his fingers up to his jaw. Many said that he may have had a stroke, but it coincided with him picking up the dog and he's also been to a doctor since then.
He has spend months dwelling on this. Searching the internet for hours, looking for another Labrador Retriever, just like her.
All of a sudden, about a week ago, he couldn't see out of his left eye. Now his balance is totally off. He can't drive. I'm doing everything for him, afraid that he's going to fall. Now we're trying a chiropractor to see if that will help.
Now here's the strange part. I keep asking my guidance about all of this, trying to figure it out. I get that the chiropractor can't help him very much. Why? I don't understand.
Then...I got it. It's all about the dog. It's all about GUILT and GRIEVING and not being able to LET IT GO. I miss her too, but I don't believe in death, so I look at it as giving her back her freedom. I KNOW that she's still here, but he doesn't believe that.
The numbness is FLOW. Now, the eyesight is effecting BALANCE, which is also stopping him from being on the computer everyday, DESPERATELY searching for a dog to replace her. He could never replace her, because she was the "perfect" dog for him. In other words, HE'S doing all of this to himself. The chiropractor can't help him too much, until he LETS GO.
Now my guidance is giving me yes on everything.
I was listening to an interview with a woman who channels Archangel Gabriel.
She had been intuitive since childhood, but she only saw dark energies. She even KNEW that at times, dark energies had taken over her father, because of the way that he changed.
Later in adulthood, she woke up one night to Archangel Gabriel sitting on her bed. She was shocked to feel something so loving in her presence. She asked why she had never seen anything but dark energies, her entire life. Gabriel showed her many of her past lives. As she began to talk about them the tears were streaming down her face. Some of those lives were horrific, a few involving her own children. In one, she had to kill her own child to save it from the torture that it would receive if she didn't. I can't even imagine.
The bottom line is that she was holding those traumas deep inside. She was holding on to so much darkness that she was only able to see more of it. She said that you have no idea how much trauma people are holding. Some have been through so much that they know nothing else. They don't know how to release it. Even with her knowing, the tears showed that the pain is still intense for her.
We tend to judge people who commit crimes and do other terrible things, but we really have no idea. It may be from a past life and they don't even know it.
I know that I've had to clear many negative ancestral and inherited emotions that were still in my body and they didn't even belong to me.
The thing is that we have no idea what others have been through. Most of us have no idea what we have been through ourselves.
Through a channel, I just heard a very detailed explanation of how the Universe works. I'm not even going to attempt to explain it, but two interesting things stood out.
One is that your consciousness is a single particle, that vibrates at an extremely rapid quantum level. The other is that with EVERY thought you are shifting from one timeline to another.
They also said that your 3rd dimensional mind does not work on the same level as your higher consciousness, which is the quantum field. Your 3D mind can't possibly imagine ALL of the infinite possibilities that could exist at that level. Hold the vibration of how you want to FEEL, but let go of ALL specifics and all EXPECTATIONS of what it should look like and what it should be.
It was also reaffirmed, that you made many agreements before you reincarnated. You may have agreed to experience one thing, before something else could happen. You agreed to awaken. You also agreed to learn and KNOW who and what you really are. Again and again I keep hearing that "You are God, in form" and until you KNOW that as a truth, all of your other agreements will remain. This subject has come up almost daily for me since December.
I just ran across Jamie Butler and Channeling Erik. I only listened to a few minutes of it so far, but I had to stop and write this.
It was an interview with Erik's mom and Jamie, channeling Erik.
Erik is a 20 year old young man, who committed suicide. One very significant point that he made was that it was pre-planned before his birth. His timing was a bit off, but it was MEANT to happen. This is not always the case, but for him it was.
If anyone chooses to listen, fair warning. When Erik speaks, he uses the language of a typical 20 year old. There's quite a few F-bombs, in case that bothers anyone. For me, I'm so used to it, it only made it more real, because Jaimie Butler does not talk like that.
The interviewer asked about his body. Erik said that you're total light and you move by thought. He said that it's hard to get used to. He gave the example of shaking hands with an old friend. He said that you don't feel the touch anymore, you merge with the other being. You then feel the emotions, but not the physical touch. He misses physical touch.
He talked about other things that he missed. He said that he loves pizza. He can manifest a pizza, but it's just not the same. He can't actually taste, smell or have the sensation of chewing a bite of pizza. He really misses that. Then he talked about riding his motorcycle. Yes, he can manifest a motorcycle in an instant, just by thought, but he doesn't have a physical body. He said that it's nothing like riding a motorcycle here on Earth. There's no physical sensation anymore.
These are just a couple of examples, but think about this. There are so many people who ask why they reincarnated here again. They don't want to be here anymore. In just a few minutes of listening to Erik, I understand why we come back. We come back to smell and taste freshly brewed coffee, to eat and taste delicious food, to feel physical hugs and kisses and to feel the grass under our feet. Think about life without your body and your 5 senses and then you'll understand why we come back.
Being on "the other side" isn't a "bad" thing, but there are no surprises, no mystery, no challenges. Erik says that Earth is really a great place to be. You just don't realize it.
Last night I was listening to a past life regression on You Tube. It was sort of long and boring, but I just kept listening. I knew that there was going to be a message there.
Many of us know by now, that we have chosen a basic path for this life. Many challenges were intended to happen. Many people in your life were meant to be here. Yet we often ask why we chose this particular life. What the heck were we thinking? This was a great example.
In the first life that this woman visited, she was married to a very successful man. She said that she felt like it was an arranged marriage and this was her "job". The house was huge and very ornate. She had money, servants, beautiful clothes, but her husband was never home. The only outside contact was a weekly tea with a few other women. There was an occasional "business" party when her husband was there, but she didn't really know anyone. Under hypnosis the woman kept saying, "I don't do anything. The servants even make my bed for me. What a sad life. It's so boring." The only thing that she liked about that life was the beautiful clothing.
They didn't get into too many specifics about her current life, but they did mention that she's very busy, to the point of exhaustion at times. It sounded like she has a big family and plenty of love, but she also takes on everyone else's problems. This life is chaotic. She also had a major medical scare recently. Her wardrobe in this life is minimal because she doesn't take time for herself and her own needs.
She realized that she chose her current life to be in total contrast to the first life. They were complete and total opposites in every way. She realized that the Universe was pushing her to have this regression in order to show her.
In her case it was obvious. She needs to find a halfway point between a life that she thought was totally boring and this life of chaos. She needs balance. She needs to slow down. The medical scare was a way to get her attention.
I say it over and over that you never do anything "wrong", you are just being shown something. You simply have to figure out what it is. You chose this life for a reason. It really is a "game". Everything about this regression made it crystal clear.
In just the last few days I've heard "jigsaw puzzle" mentioned 3 or 4 times. That's what life is. You have to figure out where all of the pieces go.
Many of us have some sort of daily "spiritual practice". Some may meditate, do yoga, journal or say affirmations. How much time do you spend on those practices each day? Maybe 15 minutes, a half hour or an hour?
What do you do for the rest of the day? Where do you allow your mind to wander? Are there things that still push your buttons? How do you actually FEEL the rest of the day? Do you show gratitude during the day? Do you spend most of your time living in each NOW moment or do you find yourself going back into judgement, worry or fear later on?
It's your DOMINANT thoughts and feelings that matter. It's the rest of your day that matters. If you're doing your "spiritual work" for just a small portion of your day and ignoring the rest, then it's actually doing very little.
I used to have a page on this site about meditation and another on visualization. I deleted both of them. If you're not paying attention to the rest of your day then it doesn't really matter what practice you use.
I never liked meditation and I can't visualize anything. I've tried, but it only frustrated me. Yet I thought that they were sooo important. I learned a long time ago that if you don't enjoy it, don't do it. If it's frustrating in any way, don't do it. If you don't have time, don't worry about it. If you forget to do it, oh well. No one cares.
I'm not saying that these practices aren't a good idea, if you enjoy them. What I'm saying is, check in with yourself quite often during the day. Stop and see how you're FEELING, often. Spend more time paying attention to the rest of your day than any "spiritual practices". If you haven't learned to live in the NOW, for most of your day, that's actually a better place to put your efforts.
I remember reading about "the thought behind the thought" many years ago. If memory serves me, I believe that it was in the book Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsh. Unfortunately, when you read as much as I do, you tend to forget some of these things.
Last night I was listening to a discussion about money. It was like something smacked me up the side of the head.
There is no doubt that it's about how you FEEL, but it's also the WHY, the REASON that you want something that can make the difference.
What feeling would $1,000,000 give you? Many say freedom and I often use freedom myself. BUT, think about "the thought behind the thought". Is it freedom from the "prison" that you've been in? Is it freedom from a job that you hate? Is it freedom from that stack of bills that you have? The actual thought behind that thought is ESCAPE and it's not a good place to be.
Sometimes we use words that sound good on the surface, but if you dig deeper, they don't have the same meaning. Escape and freedom are very similar, but think about the feeling behind each one. Escape definitely has a negative undertone to it and the Universe will say, "They aren't quite ready yet".
If you do things, want things, feel things from pure love and joy then that's a great place to be.
This is something to really think about. Many people believe that they are being punished for something or that they did something wrong and that's why things are challenging. They may believe that they don't deserve to be happy.
Have you ever thought how easy it would be for the Universe (God) to just forget about you? With 7.3 billion people on this planet it wouldn't be difficult.
No, the Universe loves you. These challenges are an attempt to SHOW you, to remind you, in the only way that it can, that there is another solution. It's attempting to make you recognize it. It may be opening the door to another option, but you don't see it.
Haven't you ever looked back on something and said, "You know what? That's the best thing that ever happened.
This is why you have to stay calm, change your perspective and ask questions. What is the Universe trying to show me or get me to see? How can I look at this differently? Pay attention and watch for signs and synchronicities.
Even if this is something that you (your soul) planned before birth, ask what you have learned from it.
People ask me all the time, “Neale, how can I get more abundance in my life? How can I get better relationships? How can I earn more money? How can I have better health?”
I look them in the eye and say: “You know what? That’s not the real problem. That’s the EFFECT of the problem. There is another problem that is the root of all other problems.”
The real problem is that you’re trying to do it all alone. You’re living as if there’s no other force, no other energy in the Universe that you can tap into. And you think life has to be that way.
Life is meant to be exactly the opposite of that.
Life is meant to be a process where you collaboratively engage with the essence of the Universe or "God", if you choose to call it that. When you bring that essence into your life, all those other problems of low income, relationships that don’t work, not finding the right livelihood...all these problems can go away.